Sunday, December 12, 2010

THE TWO WORDS....

Its amazing how we ladies use up most of our energy and most of our adult years/life & time thinking,worrying & praying about the day we'll say just these two words.... "i do".


*smh* ....from the day a girl finds herself a boyfriend, be it a boy thats known to be her so called "just a friend", down to the many fruitless relationships {which most ladies fall victims to... ('me' inclusive)}, up until the day she finally walks down the aisle (or as in most cases in the North;... The day her dowry is paid), A girl dreams and look forward to that day when she'll have the grace to say these two words in front of the invited (& sometimes the uninvited) guest lol....

point made....the question that comes to my mind is...."do the guys actually use up their energy and most of there adult years, life or time worrying, thinking and having sleepless nights about that same day??.... (nahhh i don't think so.....)

my reasons are because;
1. i do know that ladies are more inclined towards having a family than men it is a natural phenomenal that cannot be explained... it is our gift from God to bring peace and harmony and warmth to the world, to raise a family, to nurture, to bring comfort and love...

2. i do not think the guys take all the Aladdin/Cinderella/beauty & the beast/snow white and all the other romantic fairy tales/fantasy seriously, in fact i assume most boys dint even watch those fairy tale cartoons when they were kids, an example is my 6 year old nephew whom any day he'd prefer to watch 'Ben 10' than to watch Cinderella cry over a pair of glass slipper or is it my 16 year old brother whom would rather play an action packed X-box game than watch 'high school musical', oh! lets don't even talk about my 20 year old brother whom already has what i describe as a horrible horrible collection of raw meaningless rap songs on his playlist and would rather take his date to a club house than a quite nice romantic place for a dinner...

3. i do know that most guys especially guys within the Generation Y do not agree/accept that their first relationship should/could end up in marriage....nahhh they don't... most guys just wanna have fun at first, a lot of them just wanna test the waters so much so that they get to a stage where commitment becomes a huge scare for them.

4. i do know that Men these days, do not righteously follow the teachings of the books ('the books' i mean, the religious books)..... for Christianity its one man to one woman only no more, for Islam it's one man one woman however if the man is sure to be just between his wives then it is allowed to marry three more (hardly is any man Just except a few righteous ones, take note... the reason why men should be content with just one). this said and done with, men still cheat on their girlfriends/wifes and get away with it, in fact these days if you are a man and you have just one girlfriend you are seen as a slacker..*smh* its that bad and the married men are not left behind, they are in fact even the major league players and the society hardly frowns at their behaviors...
point is, the male folks do not actually worry about the two words cos if it goes wrong they could have substitutes whether we ladies like it or not and you know it is absolutely impossible to have this kind of leverage gurl! so don't you even think about it except if you'd like to end it things yourself cause first of all your conscience would eat you up! then the society would throw you out again....
we all know that being a lady you only get one shot at saying 'i do' with Mr right, so you cannot afford to go wrong unlike the male folks.

5. i do know that guys love fashion and nice stuffs but not as much as ladies do.... don't get me wrong or get it twisted there are guys out there that can actually tell what brand/make you are wearing by just looking at the style or techniques of the sewing on your dress also thanks to cable and all the educative entertaining channels most guys/men are also interested in any kind of home deco and beautiful environs...however they don't like to get involved with all the processes thats involved in turning a pumpkin into a coach...they just want results  so they hardly appreciate the 'stress' & 'time' we ladies go through into getting those results...

6. i do know that men love to do things as quick as possible and get it done with unlike we ladies that love to bask in the moments and live in the memories almost forever,we always like to hold on to things even when they do not matter in reality...

These are some of the reasons (extensively) why i assume men do not waste their adult years,life or time worrying there heads about those two words "i do" i have accepted my role and place as a woman in this world and i have also thought and questioned why just because i was born a 'female' i should always worry or carry the weight of the world on my head, i have come to a conclusion that it is best some times to just sit back and watch things unfold by its self my new catch phrase is..."everything would be fine"....
yours truly Hauwa






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  2. It is refreshing to read about the obnoxious "I do" issue. Your article is apt and does justice to the subject at hand. I would, however, like to say that men do think of the "I do..." topic very much. Solitude isn't something we want to keep at for the rest of our lives. But we fear we might marry the wrong person and that danger is rather real. And of course, we like to plant our seeds in many gardens, so to say, than one. The fear of marrying the wrong woman and the need to plant seeds combine to make us reluctant players in the field of marriage. Besides, society does not mind that we don't marry early so we just keep going at women like no tomorrow.
    Another thing is, our biological make and our psychology are rather different so our choices are, more or less, incomprehensible to one or the other.
    I can’t wait for my "I do..." moment.

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  3. itz all genetic. lol...
    thats how we all have been programmed by the almighty.
    so if u want the dudes to see stuffs from the female perspective, then u've got to pump him up with lots of oestrogen and vice versa.
    nice article though.

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  4. charles go home!...lolzzz and you are definitely right about the oestrogen thingy...lolzzz

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